Sitting next to each other in the sand, he reached for your hand. You looked into his eyes- amber amidst the setting sun. Time stopped as he drew closer… and closer… then gone! You realize you’re daydreaming again.
I have a word for that: the fairytale syndrome. Being innately hopeless romantics, we easily fall in love with the thought of falling in love. We have varied visions of how we’re going to meet our one true love, easily getting blurry-eyed at the thought of all those jittery, mushy stuffs we have in our mind right now. Thumbing through our old fairytale books would give us an idea of how far our illusions had gone. Consider also counting all those movies devoted to romantic love and all its whims, you’ll get what I me
Friends, love does not need to be a fairytale so you could call it love. There is no such thing as soulmate unless you fit yourself to be one. Nor could you just sit in one corner and wait for The One to find you. For all you know, the very person who could have made your life complete had already passed your way and you completely missed out on it because you were too stubborn not to conform to what’s typical. Especially in a society where any kind of infidelity is quickly frowned upon, you have to have good reasons not to conform-or else...
It has been a century-old argument whether or not a person must solely commit himself/herself to a dating partner and I dare say NO! Dating is one thing and a committed relationship is another. What is dating in the first place and what makes it any different from a serious commitment? The very context of dating is to get to know people. On the book “Boundaries of Dating”, the author wrote that dating allows one to learn about themselves, others and relationships in a safe context-meaning without the risk of cursed marriages. What have you got to lose? There’s no commitment at risk and no vows to break. If the couple have decided to tie the knot, only there could you demand of commitment and of fidelity. Thats what sets apart the married from the single.
Others may see it as widening their options but if you see a lot of fishes in the sea, why not? It would be hypocrite for us to deny the obvious! Dating has value in and of itself. It allows us to discover exactly what we’re looking for in a relationship before we actually say “I do”. We only get one shot at life and at marriage, don’t we get to have the right to carefully choose what and who’s best for us before we’d actually take the plunge? I personally would rather have multiple dating partners now while I’m still single rather than having many ex-husbands later on. Playing the fields and exploring on your options may not please the prudent, neither would they be able to give you a Nobel Prize for playing modest.
Variety, for your information ladies and gentlemen, is not just there to spice up our terribly boooring lives. It exists to tell us that in life, despite its uncertainties, we have a choice. Relish everything that variety brings to your table so that when time comes that you’re ready to choose, you are sure that your choice would fill your brim.
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