Close It

Whoever said that loving is sharing sure did not mean sharing boyfriends and girlfriends in mind. For that would be the most crooked reasoning ever.

Given that in out generation, ladies and gentlemen, are patronizing liberal thinking, open relationship is already a common case among young lovers. This denotes a relationship in which partners agree to date other prospects while they are not yet married. Although our conservative society strongly disapproves of this practice among women, men on the other hand are almost given special treatment by forgiving them if they are guilty of having a multiple partners at the same time. This, they say, is because man is polygamous by nature. Therefore, it is acceptable that they could love another, while being committed to the other.

However, I stand that this should not be the case at all.

Live for the present. For we are now jamming to the music of the new millennium, we should take that as a cue that gone are the old days.

Now you might just argue that we are not talking about married people here. On fact, not just yet. But remember, a man who got used to smoking, even if he got “over” with it, he would surely light a cigarette occasionally for pleasure. What the man was so used to do when he was not yet married is what he would practice even after he ties the knot with his bride. The point is, so that a man would not be tempted of having other women aside from his wife in the future, he should be forbidden of having other girlfriends aside from his partner as early as steady days.

Collect, collect and then select. To some, or perhaps, to many liberated young men, this could be the most practical way of looking for the best girlfriend. They court and date two, three, or more ladies at the same time, and apparently choose who among those ladies satisfies them most – the nerve of these males’ chauvinist pigs! What is this, an audition? By doing this practice, men are being ignorant of the consequence of their action. Ironically, they do not realize that while they are enjoying yet another superficial habit, they lose three of the most important things of their manhood: dignity, mystery and true love.

First, we discuss dignity. A man who practices infidelity is never worthy of honor – for ha does not have the strength to fight temptations. Therefore, he is nothing but a weakling. Second, when you go date a couple of “chicks” around a small world, you hastily throw your magnetic appeal away, because you are now considered “just one of the guys”, nothing special. On being public, you waste every inch of mystery in you. Lastly, while having numerous girlfriends, a man would more likely than not, have misconceptions as to whether he is really in love, or just into a romantic fantasy in a particular relationship. So, that when the time comes that he has to choose, physical pleasures oust emotional feelings from ruling, and unfortunately, he loses the ability to identify what is true love. Blimmey, but it is never a practical way if you lose more than you could afford. And besides, how practical is this when in fact you only waste time and effort (not to mention money) in working with relationships, which do not have a future anyway? Save.

Finally, this is not an issue of equality between man and women anymore. But this is an issue about commitment. You see, when you commit yourself to a relationship, you devote your love to that one person alone. But if you venture to other romance other than your partner’s, then you are not truly committed. And if there is no commitment, there is no point to the relationship – for what is there for both of you to work for?

So close it, and consider thinking from now on.

On Being Dumb

“Have you heard of the latest news? Jenny gave birth the other day!”

“Really? I haven’t heard about that. So, was it a boy or a girl?”

“A boy! He is so like his father, John. And yes, you should have seen John. He was so happy. As a matter of fact he was leaping for joy a minute ago in the classroom.”

“Good luck to them. I hope their happiness would last long. It isn’t easy to be a parent, a young parent at that age.”

Is the dialogue above an all-too-familiar scenario that happened maybe to a neighbor, a bestfriend or a high school classmate you haven’t seen since graduation?

Who would ever want a family when the only problem you seem to know at this very point of your life is how to convince your mommy or daddy to have an increase in your allowance in order for you to survive a week-long of lakwatsas? It’s like picking up a stone to shit your own head.

As a teenager myself, I would never deny of experiencing such scenario, when I seem to want to succumb to that moment, thinking nothing undesirable would happen. It is a normal thing, isn’t it? Sexual instinct is very human especially to us teenagers, for we are greatly swayed by our emotions at this age of our life.

But the question is, DO WE REALLY HAVE TO BE DUMB?

Why? Because, my goodness, you can always delay that urge to quickly buy a ten-peso TRUST classic condom (strawberry or chocolate?)! You can always be afraid, afraid to get a sexually transmitted disease or be afraid to commit sin (as what the church preaches) in engaging in pre-marital sex. Or can always bring back your senses and be sensible! Remember that you really don’t have to do this. It isn’t time yet. You are not yet prepared.

I tell you, a spur of the moment when not properly handled can lead to things that are beyond our capabilities. You just think of the consequences when you get there: to abort the child and let your conscience take the guilt for as long as you live or let it be and prepare your self to the things that even your mama and papa haven’t fully mastered yet-parenthood.

Everything comes down to this: it is just a burst of mixed emotions, of which most of them are uncontrolled, happening at a time when we think of ourselves as invincible, ready to face anything but we have to restrain ourselves. The effects are greater in magnitude than benefits derived from the process (that is, sexual activity).

That is so true. But again, we don’t have to be dumb. We usually hear them say when news of an obvious unwanted pregnancy break: “Tangaa pu uy! Wa man nagbantay!” That’s it! We don’t have to be dumb, dili ta kinahanglan magtinanga!

So, when you feel like doing it, please my friend, think, think and think. Think of it a hundred times, if not enough, a million times. You have choices, and one of them is for you not to be dumb.