Letting Go

Have you ever been in love? I suppose the answer is “Certainly!”. Isn't great to in a relationship with someone who sweeps your heart away? Just thinking about it makes me smile, how mush more in the real thing? But little do we know that along with this great and exciting feeling comes pain and misery. We must learn that life isn't only about happiness. God often put trials along our paths to challenge our faith and see how strong the bond of our relationship.

When you’re in love, there are risks involved such as how to maintain a strong and happy relationship, how to keep the passi8on alive and how to sustain love against all odds. But when worse comes to worst, we can no longer feel enough love for our partners. We have no choice left but to end the relationship through break ups. Most relationship fall not because of the absence of love. Lo9ve is always present, it's just that, one love too much and the other loves to many. There's always a possibility that a person can get attracted to another. It's human nature. It's not wrong. But that’s why we are in a recommitment. We must learn to control our emotions.

Breaking up with someone is never easy at all. Especially when you've shared a bond strengthen by time. If you read newspapers daily, then you are familiar with news stories about suicidal cases, on one common reason...having been left behind by someone he/she truly loves. As much as possible before entering a relationship be sure you are willing to work things out and most importantly be sure when you court or accept a suitor you love him/her. Don't take this as a game. When you hurt someone, it's not just the knee that gets hurt, it's the heart. Though we really can't say which one will last. So, when the situation demands it be careful in breaking your lovers heart/in heart breaks, do not be guilty if you're telling him/her the truth. Even if the truth hurt, you have to spill it out. You should be guilty when you broke up. Don't leave your ex hanging in thin air. Give him/her the answers to their question. This will make things clearer and help them understand the situation before actual parting of ways happen. It's never easy to tell someone that you want to dump her/him. We, girls prefer to hear a man's parting words gently but directly. Of course it does hurt, but it's lesser compared to a guy who tells his parting words frankly. Some relationships just end because one fell out of love for certain reasons but not because of another person. Do not say you're sorry unless you are guilty of polygamy. Sorry is a negative word. When you say this, he/she might think, “I've never been a good lover because he's sorry”. Sorry could mean a lot of things too. It could mean, “I'm sorry I met you”, “I'm sorry I wasted time on you” or “I'm sorry for I never loved you”. The most effective words to say is “thank you”. Express your gratitude to that person. After all, he/she made you happy.

Some people usually end their relati0onship through text messages or letters. That’s a major no no! Cowardice is the best description for someone who breaks up through letters, phone calls or text messages. Think of this, when you courted her, did you do it in the traditional way? Like, you gave flowers, cards and fetch her in school or walk her home? If so, why do you have to break up with him/her through letters when you had the courage to court him/her in person at the very start of the relationship?

After a break up means moving on, it’s never easy. We can’t blame anybody or somebody for the things that is beyond what we expected. We can never change destiny…that you two aren’t meant to be. If we lose love, we lose it for a reason. That reason maybe hard to understand but whatever it is, we just have to believe that God takes away when he has something better to give. What’s hard a bout letting go is the thought that once upon a time there was us.