Why is our world so hung up on appearances that sometimes we judge a person right away based on the way he looks? Why do we not bother finding out on what they’re really about? Why do we raise our noses when we pass by someone who is dressed wrong and different from us? Make foul comments like: “…thank God, I don’t look like him.” Why are we so insecure about ourselves that we have to make an outcast of anyone who is different?
God does not judge by outward appearance; He looks at the heart. Why can’t we learn the same thing?
It seems so unreasonable that people will avoid some guy because he is so tall or too skinny or too short or not muscular enough. But it happens a lot. Girls are being discarded because she’s been eating a lot.
But it really gets bad when we start looking for someone to date or even marry. We haven’t even got to know the person a lot better but we evade already. I know appearances do matter somehow. However if you’re going to pass up someone whom is courting you just because he isn’t good looking and given attention to the one who is undeniably handsome, then it’s unfair. Why not give equal attention to both parties?
Of course, I also have my physical insecurities. I’m not mister ramp model/actor. Sometimes, I hate looking at the mirror especially when I comb my hair because it’s not bouncy or attractively straight. I always dreamt of being admired without even making an effort. But when I came to think of it, I don’t want to be admired just like that-just mere good looks. I’d always used because it is true.
It’s hard to accept but the guys tend to pass more judgment based on the person’s looks. I maybe prejudiced with my own kind but I see it happens more with the guys than girls. I know because I honestly am like that- “sometimes”. We guys are more visually oriented and I can’t completely understand why. But if we base our opinions of a girls value solely on the way she looks, we are then being deceived. There are tons of women who can get operations from Dr. Vicky Belo, or starve themselves to death, get their hair dyed and so on. Good looking women aren’t hard to find a woman who truly has heart for God. You cannot go out and buy one of those like Happy Meals at Mc Donalds. If we pass up a girl just because she doesn’t fit our standards then we may end up the looser.
But the ladies do this too! If you’re passing guys off just because they cannot gain weight or they can’t burn those fats, or because they can’t play the guitar or paint your self-portrait, then you’re not only being shallow and superficial, but you may be missing out someone great.
I’m tired of seeing this happen, I am tired of catching myself doing it, and I’m tired of having others do it to me. If appearances are what we value in others, then we might end up playing Barbie dolls. If we only love at surface level, we’ll always have loneliness inside because we’ll never learn to connect with others on a deeper level. The heart sees what the eyes don’t.
I’m not just talking about the way we judge others. Learning to love also means learning to accept ourselves just as we are. If you’re black, then don’t waste money buying all those whitening products and spraying your hair with countless ironing just to get the Lucy Liu hairdo. We have our own edge. We just have to recognize it. I think, rather than being all blue about something we don’t have or we are not. Let’s just be thankful for what we were given and try to enhance it-without any surgeries.
It’s not the end of the world if you’re called Mister Big Nose at school, or you have curly hair because those insecurities sometimes mold you into a better person. Believe me, we need to value our contents as well as our cover and work to be beautiful on the inside as well as on the outside.
After all, the person inside me is the person that God loves. He judges our lives by the book, not by the cover.
Those stars that shine the brightest amongst others are like those people who value the contents rather than just the covers.
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